“I decided the only way to overcome this self sabotage was to integrate my critical parent into my recovery process.” BRB p. 207
We tried to ignore our critical inner parent – that compilation of the voices we heard as children and were used to hearing in our heads. If it was too strong to ignore, we tried to fight it, but it always seemed to find a way to win.
In ACA, we learn to uncover why this critic has had such a strong hold on us. By acknowledging the trauma that’s behind the voices, we understand and gradually learn to substitute new behaviors so we can silence this tyrant in our heads.
This gives us freedom as we bring new light into our lives in little ways. We begin to trust ourselves, others, and our Higher Power. We have healthier relationships as we find ourselves attracted to the strengths and depth in people who can hold our feelings safely rather than trying to shut us down.
We let go of the dysfunctional people. While they may have taught us the lessons we needed to learn, we know that staying is toxic. In doing so, we feel no shame or remorse; it is time to move on. We are open to the next adventure.
On this day I will be aware of my attempts at self-sabotage because I believe in the promise of the growth ahead of me. I will use my lifeline – the support system that ACA gives me.
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